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My Goal Review (Q3 2015)

“Insert fancy, perceptive quote about life” – Some Smart Dude

 

A lot of time passed, a lot of choices made. Let’s see where Simon is going with his life eh?

Fun-fun times ahead!

Every three months, Simon (that’s me) does this weird kind of reviews where he shares way to many personal information about his life on the internet.

Why? – You may ask.

Good question.

Simon is wired to think that doing this will help him reflect on his life quality and make more accurate judgments for where he wants to take his life into the future. By taking on a (kinda) objective perspective – he can adjust his “maps” of reality.

Likewise he’s able to get (hopefully) constructive feedback from the cool people reading his blog (that’s you). This way we can all define more narrowly what’s awesome in life and what sucks balls to make some sense out of this chaos.

Besides this blog is my life – I’m not holding anything back. I’ve been to inhibited in the past and therefore this might be a (positive) (over)reaction to that phase. Besides, if I do this i’ll also have a cool trackback-record of my life when I eventually reach the life quality I want.

I’ve also become pretty comfortable talking about my failures and successes as I’ve realized they don’t define me and that weaknesses can be fixed if I simply work on them. I really only truly value the perception I have of myself (or at least I know I should) and refuse to let my self-image be defined by prejudices of people who don’t even know me.

So…

Let’s get to it, shall we?

I’ve updated my “areas of life” template to only include 4 main areas to improve in life and an “energy” section that contains activities which replenish or excite me like writing, watching movies, vacations, … . Compartmentalizing my life makes it easier to structure my goals and activities and review them.

Anyway, it makes sense in my head. It’s my “mental map” that I use to navigate my life

Fancy color code, you know the drill by now;

  • Achieved
  • Canceled
  • Failed 
  • Links

Something something something.

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MIND

– I’ll easily meditate 20 mins a day (guided) with a meditation quality (subjective scale) of 3/5
I’ve been doing Holosync for the last couple of months which helps me to get into a meditative zone for about 20mins a day in the morning. Although I haven’t been really that convinced that it actually works. It does make me feel really calm and helps to empty my head. Which – suprisingly – isn’t actually that easy. My average meditation quality (measurement is subjective though) was around 3.1. Here’s a video of me – staring at a wall for 20 minutes. Be sure to watch the full video and take copious notes!

That’s a joke.

– I’ll easily implement audio visualization in my mornings.
I have made an affirmation tape that goes over my personal mission statement. In 5 minutes of listening I can re-direct my behavior into that of the person I’d like to become. Like Stephen Covey stated before: An effective life is the ongoing process of keeping you vision and values before you and aligning your life to be congruent with those every single day”. In day to day life it’s easy to lose track of what you find important – to get stuck in the “thick and thin of things”. An audio session like this can “reset” you for the desired behavior imo. I’m not going to include the audio version as it’s a bit too emotionally charged but here’s the basic text version of my personal mission statement.

– I’ll easily do a consistent morning ritual at 6:30 and evening ritual at 20:00 with a “mood rating” > 3.
To get to 100% consistency is nearly impossible. I can’t get it right every single day since there’s always some variables that are not under my control (work that needs to be finished, deep conversations, resistance, …). I have about 85% consistency at this point – I want at least 90-95%.

  • MR: Wake up > Stretching > Drink Water (750ml) > Cold Shower > Audio Visualization (7 mins) > Gratitude + Priority Check > Meditation (20 mins) > Juicing (15 mins) > Reading (1h)

It’s basically one big-ass habit chain that lasts from 6:35 to 9:00. It continuously sets me up for a great day. I do something similar in the evening (only shorter). Which goes as follows; 

  • ER: Cleaning > Dual N’Back > Journaling + Plan Next Day > Gratitude

Also, I’m tracking my mood throughout the day by using a “mood scale” that judges your mood based on pleasurable emotions vs activation level (see picture). I average out on a positive 3.4 – which means I’m doing good.


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I’ll easily review my essentials twice/week (instead of reading)
Once a week I review all the essential information I’ve gathered in my OneNote archive and review this so it stays fresh in my head. Things like; how to deal with common emotions, review of books I’ve read, review of programming info I’ve learned and so on.  I’ve decided to reduce this to one time a week (but make this review-time bit longer). It also allows me to explain basic concepts clearly when the time calls for it and strengthens synapses I find important.


– I’ll easily try a dual ‘n back trial (1 week)
My working (short-term) memory sucks balls. I’m terrible with names, recent experiences or where I left items. I even have to check my journal to see what I did in my week when somebody asks me – I’m that forgetful (And I also believe it can be contributed to my more inward focus on ideas than on external events). But this sometimes gives people the (wrong?) impression I’m not interested in their life and therfore I’ve decided to do a brain training program where I can easily improve this part of my brain so my capacity to remember this kind of stuff increases. I’ve decided to turn this 1 week experiment into a daily habit.


– I’ll easily
have read; 
Flow, The Power Of Now, Meditations
Books books books, you know what I like about books?

Everything.

They allow us to “sharpen” the mental “maps” we have of reality. Giving us better guidance on how we can improve our life quality.

I’m thinking of coding a searchable archive on my website to share all the books I’ve read and the summaries I’ve made of them. Sounds like a challenging project!

Note: If you decide to read meditations by Marcus Aurelius, get the recent (simplified) version in print. The understandable version. The old version is really difficult to read.

Overall

I’m feeling remarkably clear lately. I think my chain of habits in the morning and evening really contributes a lot to my mental clarity and calmness. I’m not looking to change anything soon.

I’m not convinced the dual n-back training is making much of a difference but the science is there to back it up so I don’t see any reason to stop this. At the moment I’m doing only 5 sessions a day – yet I’m making good progress. I might bump this up to 7.

Also, I’m tracking a lot of metrics (which I believe is essential to objectively measure your progress) but I’m still not completely sure what’s relevant and what isn’t. I’m probably tracking useless stuff or I’m not tracking something that could help me out a lot. I simply try it out and see what’s relevant. Here’s all the stuff I track atm.

“What gets measured gets improved” – Another Very Smart Dude


HEALTH 

– I’ll easily train 3/week (timed rest & progressive overload)
I’m reducing my amount of workouts/week to 3, so I can focus more on other priorities (like programming). I haven’t always done 3 training’s a week though. The last three months I’ve missed 6 training session. The last three weeks I’m doing an adaptation on the “Body By Science/Big Five” training plan (I don’t really like it since it doesn’t feel like you’re actually working out. Will switch soon to something like Starting Strength by Rippetoe. Since my blog is running low on half-nude pics of myself, here’s a physique update. 80.9kg,  +-10% body fat, cold.

Aah – much better!

– I’ll eat an idealized, standardized meal-plan with a caloric surplus (brain shake morning/juicing) + cook in bulk on monday.
I’ve switched over to a paleolithic/ketogenic diet and my energy levels have been increasingly better. I don’t think I’m going to change much the coming weeks, I’d even dare saying it’s ideal at this point

Here’s a video of the things I eat in an average day;


-I’ll easily
sleep from 23 to 6:30 (7:30 on average)
I’ve been around 7.7 hours of sleep each day/week on average. Which is awesome. It’s simply impossible to neglect recovery/sleep on a “heavy” mental and physical training regimen. I have averaged out about 2 powernaps each day/week which is too high in my opinion. However – the last four weeks I’ve averaged out at 0.8 naps/day each week. Which I contribute to my (new) energy/fat-shake in the morning.

– I’ll easily have tried modafinil (1 week), L-theanine & caffein (1 week), bulletproof coffee (1 week) (Cognitive Stimulants Test)
I couldn’t get my hands on modafinil/provigil (until recently) and therefore have bought adrafinil first (which is bascially a slower version). So far, I haven’t noticed much effect on 300mg. Will try double dose soon. I have actually been able to get a prescription from my doctor for modafinil/provigil but still have to go pick it up.  I’ve picked it up today – haven’t tested though.

– I’ll easily do a morning juicing

Say what you want, but this thing boosts your energy levels like (insert foul-mouthed explicative of your choice) (if you’re fat-adapted). I give it a -5 for looks and a nice, 6.5 for taste. When I’m really hungry, it’s definitely a 7 and tastes like a chocolate milkshake… with a lot of chunks … and less creamy… . “Still good though”Pain Avoiding Denial Bias

– I’ll easily do a morning fast from 21 to 15 until 15/08
I’ve been doing a four week morning fast experiment from 21 (9pm) to 15 (3pm) until 15/08 since I liked the mental and physical benefits Ludvig described on his blog. I haven’t noticed tremendous changes in my mental clarity/focus but I did drop some weight fast (about 3kg). I’ve decided to call it quits instead of turning it into a habit since imo the sacrifice isn’t worth the benefit. I recommend doing an energy/fat shake in the morning instead of a daily fast. A well-nourished brain functions better than a fasting one from my experience. I still fast a full day every Sunday.

– I’ll easily do a scrub & bleech each Wednesday
To keep me clean and spring I’ve been doing these weird scrubs on my face and brush my teeth with lemon juice & baking soda. This keeps me looking damn fine.. which is sweet. And I’ve – weird enough – been pretty consistent on it. Them details.

– I’ll easily have read; Wheat belly, body by science, Keto clarity
Haven’t made that much time for the “health-oriented” books as I’m doing just fine in the health department. Less ROI, so I put less time and energy into it. Optimize > Maximize.

– I’ll easily have checked my blood results
They turned out to be great overall although my ureum levels are too high (kidney indicator), which are most likely caused by an over-consumption of protein. I also believe my testosterone was too low imo (total testosterone = 555ng/dL). That’s below average for my age group. I’d like to be in the 800-1000 range. I might implement a dish of liver once a week. I also blame my sexual inactivity and the no-fap partially for this. For people who want to check, here they are. After 6 months on a high-fat, low carb diet I’m still thriving. I’ll retest my results beginning next year (each 3 months)

There a lot of science behind a low carbohydrate, high fat diet for weight loss AND health. I’m not looking to switch back ever.

Overall

I think it sucks that my free test levels aren’t up to par. I’m putting a lot of time, energy and money to improve my health markers and yet this (important) marker isn’t where it should be. I’ll dive deeper into this in the future and hope I’ll improved it by January.

My diet is looking ideal – as long as the budget can take it (+-60€/week) I’ll keep doing it. Yet I’ll have to build up a source of income to support it. My energy levels (especially my mornings) have improved noticeable after introducing the fat shake.

I’m looking to gain weight again until summer 2016 – I’ve put my eyes unto improving chest (weakest area) and arm size. No further adjustments are needed for now.


SOCIAL

– I’ll easily meet-up once a week with Michael & Nicolas (openness/engagement)
I only missed two weeks where I didn’t see both of them the last three months. I see this as an important priority on my list of goals. 

– I’ll easily approach at least 5 attractive girls/week (Wednesday)
I’ve been getting a lot more comfortable in doing this and have been constantly approaching about/more than 5 the last 4 weeks. I do this twice a week – for an hour and a half. I still want to improve my skills with women as I’ve always realized I’m a very logical guy and therefore have some difficulty building up a solid, emotional connection. Sometimes I feel like a stalker, sometimes I feel awkward – but I’m ok with that. At least It’ll create a time in the future where I’ll have the comfort to approach an attractive girl without being stifled and interact with her like a normal human being. I’ve gotten 9 numbers, 8 facebooks, 1 date, 1 kiss, 0 sex the last three months. Inanimate objects are looking increasingly attractive lately.

– I’ll easily do one board-game/social meet-up a week
I haven’t been doing this really consistently but I really end up enjoying it a lot. The boardgames allow me to escape into fantasy like I used to do with video games whilst still improving my social skills. This is a great combination. Games like Terra Mystica, Hyperborea, smallworlds. Some degree of escapism is necessary from time to time. I think everyone should have some type of social hobby (especially if you’re more introverted like me) I’ve learned that withdrawal from social interactions is to deny your inadequacy in social skills. I’m also looking for other meetups like writing meet-ups, coding meet-ups, entrepreneur meet-ups, new friends… .


– I’ll easily have read;
Emotional Intelligence 2.0, The Female Brain, Models, The Red Queen

Overall

The social stuff is probably still my biggest working point but I’ve seen some great improvements in comfort within large crowds and especially in approaching and talking to women the last three months. I’ve even made a sort of “mental model” that I use – A cheat sheet as you will. I hate random encounters so I’ve prepared some “back-pocket” questions that can serve in these things and some reminders I want to stay aware of (as recommended by Emotional Intelligence 2.0). I pretty much hate small talk and this will help me bridge the gap between the crap and the actually important stuff and keep me engaged in convo. As so;


 

WEALTH

> I’ll easily have coded my own website
I haven’t really made this a priority. I’ve replaced this by making a sort of platform on my website where I can easily share the projects I’m working on. Which isn’t really a full-breadth website but kind of just like a bunch of static pages linked together.

> I’ll easily have started SportMeats.com and will be making 1000€/month. Meet once a week to work on this.
I’ve continued to work on this but at the moment we’re on hold because we need to get the business number and we haven’t gotten the required certificates yet. So I’ve planned in a business course (October) where I’ll get the certificate in a short amount of time so I’m able to pick up the business again.

> I’ll easily start one, skill-based sidejob/week (programming/personal training/social skill) in which I make 80€/day (at least)
I have applied to several different jobs and more than 8 job offices and done some odd assignments to get my food to a satisfactory level but I can’t really say that it had much effect. In each of the jobs I’ve compeleted I was completely expendable and I’m guessing a lot of my future will look like that if I remain to be unskilled. Here’s me destroying alcohol that was tapped in wrong quantities. In some way I’m still providing humanity a service.

I can’t keep doing jobs like this. Building up relevant skills is essential.

> I’ll easily be at 60% of ODIN.
HTML, CSS, Jquery, JS, Ruby, Rspec, SQL, PHP
Programming is really sweet as I’ve been getting more and more competent at it. I still believe in the notion that we become passionate about the stuff we invest a lot of time and energy into. Chasing passion is just a worthless pursuit. Here’s some more projects I’ve finished/updated for example;

> I’ll easily have built my own coding platform with all my projects
On this platform I’ll be able to share the cool projects I’m working on and display (maybe) to future employees how I awesome I am at programming. I eventually intend to move this to another domain – separated from the blog. Click the picture below to go to my nerd cave!
Nerd-Cave
> I’ll easily have read;
Linchpin, HTML &CSS

Overall

I’m glad I’ve found a skill which feels good for me and am able to see some clear progress on. It’ll give me the financial support necessary to provide for myself when I graduate in July next year. I’ve realized by analyzing my strenghts and personality that I need a creative, individual, analytic and challenging job to thrive in. Programming fits the bill perfectly for this.

Does it feel “right” all the time? Fuck no. And it shouldn’t either. The only way to get some real results out of anything in life is by using the following steps;

  1. What Do I Want Out Of Life?
  2. What Is True? (What are the “universal truths” underlying result x?)
  3. What Needs To Be Done?
  4. Stick To It – Set A Clear End
  5. Refine & Adjust

Secondly I’ll learn essential skills of running my own business by setting up and managing SportMeats when I get finished with the required formalities. An experience unmatched – especially early in life.

Yet – money is only a means to and end. It’s necessary to give you a breadth of time and depth of possibilities to be invested in activities you actually care about. I think I would be a great movie director and see it as an ideal platform to express my ideas.


 

ENERGY

> I’ll easily have taken the trip to France with M & N
This was easily the highlight of my year. The first time I’ve ever done a vacation with friends. It’s a memory worth cherishing as cliché as it sounds. 

> I’ll easily fast and overeat (skip breakfast & bbq)
I did a challenge where I fasted (shortly) from 18h in the evening until a BBQ for school – Was funfun times :). I had 5 plates full of food. Love bulking season.

– I’ll easily take sunday off and watch a movie on saturday evening.
Consistency is important – but so is leisure. Therefore I regularly schedule in a period of relaxation where I rent a good movie on saturday, take a warm shower on sunday and sleep a bit longer to catch up on some sleep (10-11).

Overall

I haven’t really needed much variety/replenishing since I’ve started to like my life quality more the last couple of months. I’m a lot more aligned with the things I truly want to do and have the feeling my life is going in the right direction at least 85% of the time :). I think this has overall improved my outlook on life.

Most of my excitement I’ve also put under social goals. Like playing board games, approaching women and doing new meetups with interesting people. Energy and social have been overlapping a bit the last three months.

I’ve planned nothing extraordinary the next three months – maybe I should..


Essence/Lessons

I can’t understand how unstructured people can possibly get anything done in their life. I’d say in a world of chaos and change (especially the one we live in now) it’s impossible to navigate efficiently through life without some sort of “anchor points” or mental maps you can use to make sense of this world. I’m fortunate my brain is good at providing that for me.

Anyway, over the last three months I’ve also picked up some valuable lessons;

  • Have one marketable skill that will forever serve you in hard times. Only take employment when you want to learn about an industry and build up a skill whilst getting paid.
  • Trust is earned through integrity. Respect is commanded by your character.
  • Only the disciplined are truly free – Restriction creates the long-term benefits that require short-term sacrifices and the contrast to appreciate the freedom .
  • Everyone struggles with same things. Everyone wants the same. We are all more similar than we are different from each other.
  • Helping dependent people reduces their capacity to help themselves, therefore weakening them
  • Stop wasting willpower on overcoming resistance – Reset the body, so it will stop resisting
  • You never regret getting the best/most expensive option of something.
  • Withdrawal from social interactions is used to deny your social inadequacy  – Refraining further is only damaging
  • Proving people wrong is useless unless it affects your life quality or the ones you love. Seek for truth when it matters – not proving others wrong , especially on trivial shit.
  • The more positive social references in your youth, the more comfort you have as you get older. If you lost your virginity before 15, you’ll always be comfortable around women. The later, the more difficult.
  • Some degree of escapism is necessary, even mandatory to cope with the harsh dealings of life yet the dose makes the poison.
  • Purpose like love, freedom, peace are illusions of the mind to use as an excuse to justify our pointless survival (& reproduction). Humans are too bound by instinct to enter the transcendental plane of machines and too rational to be happy by living purely animalistic. Deeply understand human nature by reading evolutionary/standard psychology.
  • If you feel negative emotions – listen, life is teaching.
  • Fear and insecurity are necessary as they allow us to adapt, improve and survive. Our endless pursuit for happiness is natures cruel way to keep us surviving, adapting and procreating.
  • The knowledge necessary for each generation will become bigger as time passes (more base knowledge needed in each industry in accelerating times).
  • The pain of breakup is worth the highs of love. It’s better to feel pain now than never have felt love at all.
  • Who are you to say what is “right living?”
  • Art = mastery. By making art, it means you’re so good at a certain skill that you can perform effortlessly at the highest level.
  • We all want people to like us, we all want to impress, we all need some validation, It’s impossible to be perfect 100% of the time.
  • Take ownership for the life you’ve created and the way you deal with your setbacks – you’ve chosen every part of it.

Final thoughts;

I’m – for the first time in a long time – contented with the progress I’m seeing. The gratitude, meditating and new variety of social activities have made me appreciate my life a lot more. I see it less as a “burden” I need to carry like I used to do before.

Until recently I’ve always seen video games as the better option. In contrast nothing could top beating dragons, upgrading colossal cities, casting magical spells and the like. I’m glad I’m switching over to perceiving life as a challenge worth living instead a challenge needed to endure. “The highs are worth the lows – right?”

Also: You know those “normal” people who say the best years of your life are the ones in college?

They are wrong.

Don’t be normal. Ask;

  1. What Do I Want Out Of Life?
  2. What Is True? (What are the “universal truths” underlying result x?)
  3. What Needs To Be Done?
  4. Stick To It – Set A Clear End
  5. Refine & Adjust

REPEAT.

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Me, giving a thumbs up (y)

That’s all for today. Thanks for reading!

 

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Take care & stay strong

– Simon 

 

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19 Comments

  1. Simon although I’ve just started reading your blog it’s been very inspirational. I’ll definitely been on the lookout for more content from you.

  2. The pain of breakup is worth the highs of love. It’s better to feel pain now than never have felt love at all.
    True..but I’ve learnt that we call love is actually a form of lust and yes it is a very feel good type of drug, but only as our brain matures at 25 and beyond and we start meditating do we discover a deeper type of love.
    https://www.brainpickings.org/2015/03/31/how-to-love-thich-nhat-hanh/ is a great read on this.

    Who are you to say what is “right living?”
    I think you can say this. People do have different circumstances of life, but I think some principles are distillable. What all the great sages and saints came to teach us too. What’s really possible and why we’re here. I truly believe faith and service to God is a big part in that equation.

    “It’s impossible to be perfect 100% of the time.”
    I think not yet. But there is near perfection that comes when living our lives as a deep individual and also as an effective “interactor” (made that word up now) of life’s different facets can make us reach a level where our living life is an art for us, it’s automatic and fluid and easy. That’s the goal. And growth is endless, but some will reach goal x faster than others, and some will definitely die reaching farther ahead then others, even than other competitors who tried to compete with them!

    1. “ only as our brain matures at 25 and beyond and we start meditating do we discover a deeper type of love.”

      Good insight – it’s important to distinquish the two when choosing a partner for the long-term.

      “But there is near perfection that comes when living our lives as a deep individual and also as an effective “interactor” (made that word up now) of life’s different facets can make us reach a level where our living life is an art for us, it’s automatic and fluid and easy”

      When “the challenge” of life becomes automatic we become bored and will yet again set the standard higher for ourself. Growth, like you said us essential.

      “If you lost your virginity before 15, you’ll always be comfortable around women – I don’t agree with that.”

      It’s indeed the references that matter most. If you had negative references throughout your youth with women, these will become a much bigger block than the age you lost your virginity.

  3. The more positive social references in your youth, the more comfort you have as you get older. If you lost your virginity before 15, you’ll always be comfortable around women. The later, the more difficult.

    I don’t agree with that. I think that social skills are transferrable. You can be 30 when you lose your virginity but due to having positive social skills with men and women and your self image and beliefs while interacting with them will serve as supports even in the later years of your life. But positive references that support your belief of your social strength will definitely help in all areas of life, and of course should be balanced with humility and good selflessness at times too.

  4. 1. how old are you? What’s your myers briggs personality type? Very fascinating!
    2. I really am happy you have simplified your areas of life. When I first saw it with 7-8 outside circles including
    legacy, it was too much for me and a bit irrelevant. But now I can see myself usuing your own categories for my own life.
    3. “I really only truly value the perception I have of myself (or at least I know I should) and refuse to let my self-image be defined by prejudices of people who don’t even know me.” Powerful, that’ll take you a long way! It’s harder to do than it seems of course.

    * 4. MR: Wake up > Stretching > Drink Water (750ml) > Cold Shower > Audio Visualization (7 mins) > Gratitude + Priority Check > Meditation (20 mins) > Juicing (15 mins) > Reading (1h) It’s basically one big-ass habit chain that lasts from 6:35 to 9:00. It continuously sets me up for agreat day. I do something similar in the evening (only shorter). Which goes as follows; ER: Cleaning > Dual N’Back > Journaling + Plan Next Day > Gratitude

    YOU DO THAT EVERYYY DAY? I’m SO IMPRESSED.. that’s intense and awesome! I’m barely getting by in drinking water in the morning first thing.

    5. I didn’t like the mood tracking scale you used, and won’t be using that particular version if I ever get to it.. because a -4 state (calm relaxed at rest serene) is a great state to be in from my perspective. Sometimes the euphoric states are superficial, not a place I want to be in 24/7.
    I like Sedona method’s hierarchical ordering of emotions (AGFLAP – Apathy, Grief, Fear, Lust, Anger, Pride..followed by higher states of courage, acceptance and peace), which I’ll probably tinker around with your scale to perhaps create something I’d think would ring more true for me.

    6. My favorite guided meditation so far is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uBqMxTQPsbE. I think it captures the Power of Now spirit quite impactfully. Holosync is eh. I prefer those pulling to higher consciousness hidden in their agendas.

    7. I like the idea of reviewing your notes and following through from there. A question though: When you have so many potential things
    and ideas you could focus on reviewing how do you pick which ones you actually do review?
    As a creative mind, I have a big issue of having too many thoughts, plans, inspirations to the point where it just lays as an archive most of the time. Maybe it’s a personality limitation too? Being a collector of great information rather than having a super optimal learning to application quotient.

    8. Dual N Back, fascinating. I want to get on track for memory training too, both short term and long term. I’ll check it out.
    PhotoReading, Jim Kwik, and buzan works are things I tried following but didn’t complete.

    9. Meditations by aurelius..new discovery, will have to check that one out. Power of now is a win. Flow… a summary would probably more practical.

    10. I love your measurement chart..over 20 metrics daily? That’s intense.. yet powerful. Would love having a post on a template of it and how you use it and
    how it’s helped you.

    11. Haha a funny thing to see someone else doing cognitive stimulant testing.. guess i’m not the only one!

    12. Sleep i want to get under control too… but i’m very sensitive to sounds. need super earplugs. Do you use your phone as a timer? Do you have a certain methodology for inputting measurements like once a time in a day? don’t want to be sitting on my computer all day entering measurements haha.

    13. Blood result analysis, great! I’m getting my check up next week to see what’s up. I need to analyze it thoroughly. Also slowly healing the tooth issues I’ve had using natural means,
    proving out slowly successful.

    14. Once a week for friends is important! I’m in a slow phase in my life and minimizing that for now though. Need to reframe myself.

    15. Girls are too distracting for me at this point, but it’s funny how you’re measuring girl interaction, and it’s commendable how open you
    are to saying “9 numbers, 8 facebooks, 1 date, 1 kiss, 0 sex the last three months.” lol.

    16. Good luck on the job hunt! If I was a millionaire, I would hire you on the spot, as I’m impressed by your self-committment!
    And great progress on Odin, want to check out myself.. if you designed this website all by yourself… WOW keep it up!

    17. “What Is True? (What are the “universal truths” underlying result x?)” … what do you mean by that?

    18. Fun france trip! Traveling is just as powerful to expand your mind as books or self challenges if you do reflections in the new places!

    Thoughts:
    1. I feel like you are a guy that likes to get A LOT out of life, which is awesome.
    But I also feel like that may make you focus on two many things at once that may steal from your
    success in other places.

    A) Reading
    Maybe you are trying to read too many books at once?

    Wheat belly, body by science, Keto clarity

    Flow, The Power Of Now, Meditations

    Emotional Intelligence 2.0, The Female Brain, Models, The Red Queen
    Linchpin, HTML &CSS

    11 books in 3 months as a goal on 3-6 different subjects?
    7 books actually read.
    Maybe if you aim for 9 books on 2 subjects it would be more powerful.

    B) Wealth:
    You’re in college so it’s all good, but yeah a lot of times career planning isn’t like
    weightlifting in where you have to be more scientific with hypothesis and then test it out.
    Your hypothesis based on your personality and reflection is that you would be a good programmer,
    but that may not be the case.

    You are spot on that you are analytical and want to refine systems, and there are many places
    where you could leverage that skill just as you are in your own personal development.

    Do over by john acuff was recommended as the best career book by Seth Godin, check it out.
    And elon musk’s probability thinking will serve you well if you imbibe it in your search for financial success.

    Social success will come at the rate you are going, you are handsome and growing and productive.
    Just make sure that you don’t let that be an intimidation for girls that you are around.
    Learn to be funny and sort of confident at the same time.
    Dating books are probably the best at teaching social skills in general, since they are
    tested with a certain goal in mind.

    What I got most from your post?

    1. Need a strong powerful morning ritual again.
    2. Need to measure thoroughly with daily metrics and quarterly reviews.
    3. Systemized growth, if pursued and sought out persistently, will always lead to success in the areas we are focused on developing.

    Thanks Simon!

    1. how old are you? What’s your myers briggs personality type? Very fascinating!

      21 – intj

      I really am happy you have simplified your areas of life. When I first saw it with 7-8 outside circles including
      legacy, it was too much for me and a bit irrelevant. But now I can see myself usuing your own categories for my own life.

      Sweet! Yeah – I made things too complicated :)

      “I really only truly value the perception I have of myself (or at least I know I should) and refuse to let my self-image be defined by prejudices of people who don’t even know me.” Powerful, that’ll take you a long way! It’s harder to do than it seems of course.

      True – harder to implement off course. The affirmation-tape in the morning is really helpful though. Also psycho-cybernetics is a great book in redefining the self-image.  

      YOU DO THAT EVERYYY DAY? I’m SO IMPRESSED.. that’s intense and awesome! I’m barely getting by in drinking water in the morning first thing.

      Not 100% solid héhé J But I do it about 80% of days. It took me quite some time to build the chain up, habit by habit. Keeps me busy. It still changes regularly.

      I didn’t like the mood tracking scale you used,

      I’ve stopped tracking mood altogether – it’s not as relevant/practical to measure progress and very  subjective

      Holosync

      I recently send my refund-request to the holosync corporation. I didn’t notice that many benefits compared to “regular” meditation tapes. I’m just switching over to a relaxing audio tape to clear my head

      how do you pick which ones you actually do review in your archive? <-> Being a collector of great information rather than having a super optimal learning to application quotient.

      I only the review the information I can practically apply in my life at that point. For me, I’m learning how to make websites at the moment, so obviously I’m reviewing that. I mostly pick the “name” archive too where I write down new people I met and remember their name. For the rest I pick some essential books that address current problems I’m facing (models for dating, one thing for focus, …)

      Time is limited and life is complex. If you want to do well in all areas of life (mind, health, wealth, social) you’ll have to prioritize the information you collect for ONLY things you’ll practically apply in life. Ideas are great and all – but if you can’t find a direct problem to apply it on it’s a waste of time, energy and mental storage space.

      Dual N Back, fascinating. I want to get on track for memory training too, both short term and long term. I’ll check it out.
      PhotoReading, Jim Kwik, and buzan works are things I tried following but didn’t complete.

      I don’t believe in speedreading after rigorous experimentation. Neural synapses need time and repetition to grow/strengthen – Only the video made by Tim Ferriss on this subject I’ve found helpful.; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jeOHqI9SqOI

      Pacer + start a few words in. Also: practice, the more you read the better you get at it.

      Paused dual ‘n back (for now) as I haven’t noticed measurable results in my day-to-day life (remembering more facts, remembering more names, ….)

      Meditations by aurelius..new discovery, will have to check that one out. Power of now is a win. Flow… a summary would probably more practical.

      GET THE SIMPLIFIED VERSION :D The old version is soooooooo difficult to read. Summary (xx)

      I love your measurement chart..over 20 metrics daily? That’s intense.. yet powerful. Would love having a post on a template of it and how you use it and
      how it’s helped you.

      Might do a remake of my “how to set goals” (& track them) post I made a while ago.

      Someday..

      Haha a funny thing to see someone else doing cognitive stimulant testing.. guess i’m not the only one!

      Drugs ftw!

      Sleep i want to get under control too… but i’m very sensitive to sounds. need super earplugs. Do you use your phone as a timer? Do you have a certain methodology for inputting measurements like once a time in a day? don’t want to be sitting on my computer all day entering measurements haha.

      In the evening (when I go to bed) I write down my priorities for the next day on a piece of paper and I write the time I go to bed in my journal. In the morning I just write my wake-up time on the piece of paper with priorities and add it to the journal in the evening 

      I measure the difference/fill in the tracking sheet on Sunday when I do my review.

      It’s not that complicated.

      Once a week for friends is important! I’m in a slow phase in my life and minimizing that for now though. Need to reframe myself.

      Success in one area of life doesn’t make up for failure in another. Prioritizing relationships (especially at younger age) is essential .

      Girls are too distracting for me at this point, but it’s funny how you’re measuring girl interaction, and it’s commendable how open you
      are to saying “9 numbers, 8 facebooks, 1 date, 1 kiss, 0 sex the last three months.” lol.

      Meet to hug-ratio is less than 0.35x² – Error error error. In the end we’re just all looking for a compatible girl that likes us. I’ve removed the number tracking and facebook as they aren’t representative for the quality of interactions (and that’s eventually what I’m after). I’m fairly open about my life, yeah. It keeps things simple. I like simple.

      Good luck on the job hunt! If I was a millionaire, I would hire you on the spot, as I’m impressed by your self-committment!
      And great progress on Odin, want to check out myself.. if you designed this website all by yourself… WOW keep it up!

      I haven’t designed this one myself J I’m making a portfolio soon though on which I’ll display everything I’ve made so far. Something far better than http://www.basicgrowth.com/code-cave and similar to http://charlottetang.com/

      “What Is True? (What are the “universal truths” underlying result x?)” … what do you mean by that?

      It means you analyze critically what is true. If you apply universal truth x you will inevitable get results y. For example;

      • If you want to have a six packcà Will broccoli get you closer? Will hamburgers get you closer?
      • If you want to date an attractive girl à Will improving your looks get you closer? Is having more money going to get you closer?
      • If you want to earn more money à Will stealing get you closer? Will learning a difficult skill get you closer?

      What is “true”?

      Thoughts:
      1. I feel like you are a guy that likes to get A LOT out of life, which is awesome.
      But I also feel like that may make you focus on to many things at once that may steal from your
      success in other places.

      But I’ve already reduced my goals :(. It’s true though – if you want to get 1 extraordinary goal, there’s sacrifices that need to be made.  “He who chases two rabbits, catches none”. I’m constantly juggling around with life. The main problem I have is that I don’t want my social life (friends/girls) to suffer under my work goals (making websites). I’m not compromising on either so I accept the slower progress on both as a trade off. 
      Your hypothesis based on your personality and reflection is that you would be a good programmer,
      but that may not be the case.

      You are spot on that you are analytical and want to refine systems, and there are many places
      where you could leverage that skill just as you are in your own personal development.

      It’s difficult to find out what kind of career will suit you. I’ve just picked a sector (ict) and one skill (making a website from a to z) for the moment, and I’m going to stick with it. I’ll always have the opportunity to switch within the tech sector if hardware is more my thing but that’s a problem for later.

      There’s already too much time being wasted by “trying out things” instead of just choosing one thing and becoming really good at it. What we “like” is mostly defined by the things we’re really good at as stated by Cal Newport in his book “so good they can’t ignore you”

      Wow – do over looks like a great career book :) Thanks for the recommendation!

      Social success will come at the rate you are going, you are handsome and growing and productive.
      Just make sure that you don’t let that be an intimidation for girls that you are around.
      Learn to be funny and sort of confident at the same time.
      Dating books are probably the best at teaching social skills in general, since they are
      tested with a certain goal in mind.

      Thanks for the encouragement – I struggle with this the most although I’ve had some improving results the last months.

      I really appreciate you took the time you wrote such a deep and insightful comment. I wish more people did something like this!

      1. Hey dude, thanks for the point to point reply, learnt a lot! Dropped Mood and dual n back, got it. I still need some form of a practice for increasing my memory and learning ability, so keep me posted on that. And I’m figuring out which metrics I want to measure, I’ll have only a few though. I’ll check out some of your other posts too slowly, first by going through your ebook.

        Yeah man I’m glad your happy I gave a thorough analysis, The thing I like about personal life reviews is that it shows me short term growth and learning refinement rather than conclusive “here’s all you need to know in life” type of blog posts I get in self help sometimes. lol. Yours was one of the few blogs of a aspiring high achiever reviewing ALL areas of his life and being open about it, so I’d love to review each of your quarterly updates and provide feedback. Plus I’m only a few years older and also on the same journey as you, trying to master the art of life. Also, I’ve been on other blogs with reviews but usually they only focus on one element of life, for example health or money, and thus they don’t give me a complete picture of how they are addressing life as a WHOLE. So thank you for that!

        “Time is limited and life is complex. If you want to do well in all areas of life (mind, health, wealth, social) you’ll have to prioritize the information you collect for ONLY things you’ll practically apply in life. Ideas are great and all – but if you can’t find a direct problem to apply it on it’s a waste of time, energy and mental storage space.”
        & “There’s already too much time being wasted by “trying out things” instead of just choosing one thing and becoming really good at it. What we “like” is mostly defined by the things we’re really good at…”

        Definitely a great reminder for me, I’ve learnt a lot from exploring information so I don’t regret sometimes learning irrelevant things as they sometimes help in unexpected ways or open new things for me in life in unimaginable ways, but I definitely need to sometimes just live and do one small thing rather than learn 10 things of which none are used.

        I’ll probably make a 2015 review for myself including lessons I learnt and have you check it out too for your advice and feedback! I’ll keep you posted and will probably email your shortly. And if you need an accountability partner, I’m here for you too. Keep the growth going… last quarter ending soon! :)

        1. Alright, follow-up time;

          Sweet! the ebook is pretty good (from what I’ve heard)

          I’m glad you like the reviews I’m doing! I’m actually busy writing out the last quarter of this year atm :)

          ” I definitely need to sometimes just live and do one small thing rather than learn 10 things of which none are used.”

          Focus indeed.

          Sure! Keep me updated!

  5. Dude! YOU ARE A BEAST! i can’t believe all the value, posts, books, reviews that you are putting, it’s fucking great…as a side note: i also can’t believe how much we share in common, it’s almost like you were my brother or something like that…
    The same books, approaching, excercise and nutrition, meditation, challenging your reality, do you play music? hahah Keep going brother!
    Pd: Yeah i noticed the ego coming saying “you are a beast” and at the same time saying it to myself because we are so alike. hahahah fuck it.

    1. Haha awesome :D
      Guess everyone wants to upgrade their life eh? :D

      Don’t play music though – I’ve quit playing piano a year ago as other priorities were more important. I might pick it up again though. My focus can become too wide too easily.

      You’re a beast too.

      Take care,

  6. Hey Simon,
    Je blogs hebben me veel motivatie gegeven om het zelf ook te gaan doen.
    Als je interesse hebt in beter worden met vrouwen, raad ik je zeker aan om Tim Veninga te checken.

    Keep it up :)

    1. Ik heb zijn videos even bekeken en ze bevalden me toch niet 100% hoor.

      Manieren om een meisje te krijgen die al een vriend heeft, vrouwen versieren als een klootzak, vrouwen laten vreemdgaan. Ik vind dat vrij manipulatief.

      Momenteel haal ik goede resultaten uit mijn aanpak om gewoon daygame te doen in het treinstation waar ik woon 2x /week.

      Heb je models van Mark Manson al gelezen – Die kerel heeft pas een nice aanpak!

  7. Hey Simon, I love the blog man! It gives me so many ideas.

    I read your bio, and noticed you were a gamer. I’m really passionate about self-development, and have come to view games as a waste of time like you (correct me if I’m wrong :P )

    My view, since quitting video games about 5 years ago, is that why waste time developing skills in a virtual world when the rewards/challenges and skills in the real world are so much better?

    Anyway, today I was finishing an assignment and found these two TED talks, which have lodged an annoying spanner into my view about video games.

    https://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgonigal_gaming_can_make_a_better_world
    https://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgonigal_the_game_that_can_give_you_10_extra_years_of_life

    They both paint gaming in a positive light.

    I’ve not totally made up my mind on her opinions myself, but what I can say is that I have learnt some business skills from playing business-related games back in the day.

    I’d love to know what you think :D

    Keep up the awesome work! Inspiring stuff!

    1. I’d say there are indeed good skills that can be developed through video game playing yet there are simply too many downsides considering the upside.

      Skills and longevity can be acquired by far better means. I’m 100% against them as they’re mostly used to spice up life/escape from life.

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