Thoughts On self acceptance
Many people, including myself base their core confidence and mood on external factors. This could be their appearance, clothing, status, wealth, recognition, attention, social contacts,… . If one of these key elements is missing or isn’t the way they want it to be, they feel incomplete since they rely on these external factors for their happiness.
Our society conditions us to think these factors are really important while they are practically irrelevant when it comes to defining who you truly are on the inside. I’ve written another great article on this titled “The Secret To Core Confidence”
I think you should actively try to disconnect your self-worth from external factors. Who you are is not defined by any of the above. Real value comes from within. Off course this is easier said than done. We can easily lose track of all our great qualities when we compare our self to others. The basic idea you need to cultivate is that of self-acceptance.
Stop telling yourself you are not good enough. That is straight up bullshit. You have so much to offer this world that others cannot. You are perfect, you are complete. It really doesn’t matter what others think about you. Stop comparing yourself to everybody else. Just be you and focus on beating the person in the mirror. There isn’t anything that needs to be added to you. You are whole. You are more than enough.
Be assured of your self-worth in any situation (or fake it if you don’t feel it) and others will appreciate that in you. At least the ones that count. Discard the ones who don’t recognize how valuable you are. Mostly they are just jealous and insecure, filled with hate. Stand above that and let love flow freely trough you, into them.
Now, how can you start doing this right now? Here are some practical tips
Self-acceptance is key in this process.
- Try looking yourself in the mirror and telling yourself you are perfect.
- have an inspirational quote in front of your bed that lifts you up
- Stop criticizing yourself
- Focus on all the things you have/can instead of the opposite, be grateful.
- Life isn’t easy, accept it is a process of growth.
- Don’t envy the gifted/lucky since they don’t have the mental toughness your struggle creates
- What are you proud of in life? What have you accomplished others haven’t? Or what can I accomplish others can’t?
- Count the things money can’t buy to see how rich you truly are.
- Breathe slowly
- Smile at yourself
- Recognize you are valuable for who you are not for what you are.
- Go crazy like I did and shave off all your hair :D This forces you to look inside you, into who you truly are instead if relying on your appearance for self-acceptance.
In the end it doesn’t matter if an external factor changes. It should never affect you. You are still the same person. Your core fundamentals stay solid because you know nothing can touch you. Practice self-acceptance everyday so you’ll stay grounded at all times. Don’t let the world knock you out of balance. Stay solid on your core values by telling yourself how you see yourself. If you don’t see yourself the way you want to. Find out what is necessary to change this and undertake action immediately! Do this until you start to believe in yourself. Confidence and the feeling of self worth is the basis of life
“If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? “
This post really means a lot to me since I don’t always see myself in a positive way. I am taking action to become the person I want to be. I need to realize I’m on a journey to become all that I can be and that everything is experience. There are no failures. The only thing I see as failures are missed opportunities. life is to short to worry about what others think about you.
“Stop being conditioned by society and determine your own truths. Live on your own terms and create the world you want to live in!”
With great love in my heart for myself and others I write this. If you have any thoughts or questions on this topic, feel free to share that with me in the comment section below.